如何找到合适的伴侣的秘密
The secrets of how to find the right partner
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2020-11-27 09:16
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So how many of you believe in love at first sight? And did you know that when it comes to love, we think exactly and we still think exactly the same as the Neanderthal? We just have a slightly different mating ritual. My name is Tony Verhej. And today, I will tell you the secrets of how to find the right partner, right now. And I'm having a dream marriage. And I'm waking up next to my dream every morning. And I'm living with my dream for almost ten years. And we're still madly in love and that kept me wondering why are there so few people truly happy after ten years? So I started to investigate, I read books, I visited seminars.

你们中有多少人相信一见钟情? 你们知道吗,说到爱情,我们的想法仍然和穴居人的一模一样,我们只是有一个稍微不同的求偶仪式。我的名字是托尼费尔海。今天,我要告诉你如何找到合适的伴侣的秘密,而且是立刻就能找到。我有着理想的婚姻。每天早上,我都在我理想伴侣的身边醒来。我和我的理想伴侣在一起生活了近十年。我们仍然疯狂地相爱,这让我一直在想,为什么结婚十年后,真正幸福的人会这么少? 于是我开始研究这件事,我读了一些书,参加了一些研讨会。 
 

How many of you have read the book of John Gray, "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus?" OK. This is my second presentation ever, so have a little bit of patience and l see the clock ticking. But John Gray he has a real great explanation about how love,and attraction works from the past and the present, but he has no real solution for the future. So today I will talk to you about the future of love, about your future. Bear with me. I only have four minutes. So, uh... I want you to open your ears, and open your eyes, and open your mind, and open your heart, cause these four minutes will blow your mind: the formula of true love in just four minutes. 

你们中有多少人读过约翰·格雷的《男人来自火星,女人来自金星》?这是我有史以来的第二次演讲,所以麻烦大家多一点耐心,我知道时间在一分一秒地走过。但是约翰·格雷,他有一个非常棒的解释,是关于从过去到现在,爱和吸引力是如何运作的,但他对未来的事情并没有真正的解决方案。所以今天我要和你们谈一谈爱情的未来,谈一谈你们的未来。请再容忍我一下。我只有四分钟的时间。所以,呃...我希望你们能竖起耳朵,睁大眼睛,开放思想,敞开心扉。 因为这四分钟会让你大吃一惊:在仅有的四分钟内阐明真爱公式。 

 

So how many of you had parents that were still kissing while growing up? Or grandparents who were still kissing while growing up? OK, thank you. Well, I didn't.And sometimes people start off with the wrong partner, but they don't want to fail, so they keep on motivating themselves, they keep on struggling. If people only knew how to find the right partner, and how to keep the right partner, there wouldn't be so much struggle, there wouldn't be so many divorces. What would this world look like, if each child grows up and he doesn't suffer from the pain of his mom and dad fighting, or he doesn't have to suffer from the pain of a divorce?So what would this world look like, if a child grows up and sees his mom and dad holding hands and love each other until death?

在你们当中,有多少人的父母在你们的成长过程中依然会亲吻彼此?或者是你们的祖父母,在你们的成长过程中会亲吻彼此? 好的,谢谢大家。哦,我没有。有时人们一开始就选错了对象,但他们不想失败,所以他们不断地激励自己,他们不断地挣扎。如果人们知道如何找到合适的伴侣,如何维系合适的伴侣,就不会有那么多的挣扎,不会有那么多的离婚了。这个世界会是什么样子,如果每个孩子在成长过程中都不用遭受父母争吵的痛苦,也不用遭受父母离婚的痛苦? 那么,这个世界会是什么样子,如果一个孩子在成长过程中,看到他的父母双手相握、彼此相爱直到生命尽头?

Just be conscious about how love works, because love doesn't work in mysterious ways. There are three main components to love:it's biological, it's chemical, and it's mental. Biological-from Neanderthal till now, men and women they fit well together. Yeah,they fit well. And...uh...With our instincts tell us to look for a woman with broad hips, and it tells the woman to look for a man with a big...potential. We all want...we all want certainty. Chemical, so I have an eye-opener for you, there is only love at first sight because love blinds us. When you fall in love with the wrong partner, we're blind to it.

要意识到爱是如何运作的,因为爱不是以神秘的方式起作用的。爱有三种主要的成分:生物上的、化学上的和精神上的。生物上的一-从穴居人起到现在,男人和女人就很合得来。是的,他们配合得很好。并且..我们的本能告诉我们,要找一个臀部宽大的女人,它告诉女人去找一个有着强大 潜力的男人。我们都想要 我们都想要确定性。化学上的,下面会让你大开眼界,世界上只有一见钟情式的爱情,因为爱情使人盲目。当我们爱上了一个错误的伴侣,我们是盲目的。 

 

Some find out they are with the wrong partner when they are even 60, 70, or even older. biology, our body, our hormones, this chemical factory in our head, it makes us behave as people we are not. So we start off wearing a mask, and when we never clean the house, and when our date comes, then we clean the room, and we start to walk different, and we start to talk different. And the women they act different. And based on that, we create false expectations. So our partners fall in love with someone we are not. So when our biology, when our chemistry is wearing out, and when our biology is getting less attractive, and less attractive as the previous one, but uh, when the biology is less attractive, we still have the same partner.

有些人在60岁、70岁甚至更老的时候发现他们和错误的伴侣在一起。我们的生物特征、我们的身体、我们的荷尔蒙、我们大脑里的这个化学工厂,它让我们表现得不像自己。所以我们开始戴上面具了,我们从不打扫房间,但当我们恋爱时,我们就打扫房间了,并且我们走路的姿势也变了,说话的方式也不一样了。而女性的行为举止也和之前不同了。基于此,我们产生了错误的期待。所以我们的伴侣爱上的那个人并不是我们自己。所以,当我们的生物特征,当我们的化学物质消耗殆尽时,当我们的生物特征变得不那么有吸引力,和之前相比不那么有吸引力了,但是,当生物特征不那么有吸引力时,我们的伴侣却还是那一个。 
 

So besides our, so besides our physical, Besides our physical part, there's still our mental part. So you still want to wake up 30 years from now and still be in love with the same person. You don't need, you don't need multiple possibilities. You just need one. You just need the right one.And I have...This presentation should...should take three minutes ess, so if we can skip a few of the,if we can skip few of the slides... All I have for you one is one more question. Ah, OK, this one... Ah, when a, when a man... When a man wants to touch a woman, he needs to touch her heart.

所以除了我们的生理特征,除了我们的生理部分,还有我们的精神部分。所以你希望,当30年后的一天你醒来时,仍然爱着同一个人。你不需要,你不需要许多可能性。你只需要一个。你只需要一个对的人。而我有…这次演讲应该…少花三分钟的时间,所以如果我们能跳过一些,如果我们能跳过部分幻灯片我想再问你们一个问题。当一个男人想要触碰一个女人时,他需要先触碰到她的心。 

 

"When a woman wants to touch a man's heart, she needs to touch him."All I have for you is one more question:how many of you are single? Keep your hands up and look around, because... No it's not for me to check, it's not for me to check, but you just heard the formula for true love, and so did they. If you show your real face to them, they will show you their real face, and if you open up your heart, they will open up their heart. My name is Tony Verhei, thank you for sending me your future wedding cards.

当一个女人想要触碰一个男人的心时,她需要触碰他的身体。我想再问你们一个问题:你们中有多少人是单身?把手举起来然后看看四周,因为…… 不是我要验证,只是你刚刚听到了真爱公式,而他们也是。如果你向他们展示出真实的一面,他们也会做同样的事情。如果你敞开心扉,他们也会敞开心扉。我的名字是托尼费尔海,感谢你们寄给我你们未来的结婚请束。

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