So how many of you believe in love at first sight? And did you know that when it comes to love, we think exactly and we still think exactly the same as the Neanderthal? We just have a slightly different mating ritual. My name is Tony Verhej. And today, I will tell you the secrets of how to find the right partner, right now. And I'm having a dream marriage. And I'm waking up next to my dream every morning. And I'm living with my dream for almost ten years. And we're still madly in love and that kept me wondering why are there so few people truly happy after ten years? So I started to investigate, I read books, I visited seminars.
How many of you have read the book of John Gray, "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus?" OK. This is my second presentation ever, so have a little bit of patience and l see the clock ticking. But John Gray he has a real great explanation about how love，and attraction works from the past and the present, but he has no real solution for the future. So today I will talk to you about the future of love, about your future. Bear with me. I only have four minutes. So, uh... I want you to open your ears, and open your eyes, and open your mind, and open your heart, cause these four minutes will blow your mind: the formula of true love in just four minutes.
So how many of you had parents that were still kissing while growing up? Or grandparents who were still kissing while growing up? OK, thank you. Well, I didn't.And sometimes people start off with the wrong partner, but they don't want to fail, so they keep on motivating themselves, they keep on struggling. If people only knew how to find the right partner, and how to keep the right partner, there wouldn't be so much struggle, there wouldn't be so many divorces. What would this world look like, if each child grows up and he doesn't suffer from the pain of his mom and dad fighting, or he doesn't have to suffer from the pain of a divorce?So what would this world look like, if a child grows up and sees his mom and dad holding hands and love each other until death?
在你们当中，有多少人的父母在你们的成长过程中依然会亲吻彼此？或者是你们的祖父母，在你们的成长过程中会亲吻彼此？ 好的，谢谢大家。哦，我没有。有时人们一开始就选错了对象，但他们不想失败，所以他们不断地激励自己，他们不断地挣扎。如果人们知道如何找到合适的伴侣，如何维系合适的伴侣，就不会有那么多的挣扎，不会有那么多的离婚了。这个世界会是什么样子，如果每个孩子在成长过程中都不用遭受父母争吵的痛苦，也不用遭受父母离婚的痛苦？ 那么，这个世界会是什么样子，如果一个孩子在成长过程中，看到他的父母双手相握、彼此相爱直到生命尽头？
Just be conscious about how love works, because love doesn't work in mysterious ways. There are three main components to love：it's biological, it's chemical, and it's mental. Biological-from Neanderthal till now, men and women they fit well together. Yeah，they fit well. And...uh...With our instincts tell us to look for a woman with broad hips, and it tells the woman to look for a man with a big...potential. We all want...we all want certainty. Chemical, so I have an eye-opener for you, there is only love at first sight because love blinds us. When you fall in love with the wrong partner, we're blind to it.
Some find out they are with the wrong partner when they are even 60, 70, or even older. biology, our body, our hormones, this chemical factory in our head, it makes us behave as people we are not. So we start off wearing a mask, and when we never clean the house, and when our date comes, then we clean the room, and we start to walk different, and we start to talk different. And the women they act different. And based on that, we create false expectations. So our partners fall in love with someone we are not. So when our biology, when our chemistry is wearing out, and when our biology is getting less attractive, and less attractive as the previous one, but uh, when the biology is less attractive, we still have the same partner.
So besides our, so besides our physical, Besides our physical part, there's still our mental part. So you still want to wake up 30 years from now and still be in love with the same person. You don't need, you don't need multiple possibilities. You just need one. You just need the right one.And I have...This presentation should...should take three minutes ess, so if we can skip a few of the，if we can skip few of the slides... All I have for you one is one more question. Ah, OK, this one... Ah, when a, when a man... When a man wants to touch a woman, he needs to touch her heart.
"When a woman wants to touch a man's heart, she needs to touch him."All I have for you is one more question：how many of you are single? Keep your hands up and look around, because... No it's not for me to check, it's not for me to check, but you just heard the formula for true love, and so did they. If you show your real face to them, they will show you their real face, and if you open up your heart, they will open up their heart. My name is Tony Verhei, thank you for sending me your future wedding cards.